A better match starts with better questions.
Photo-first apps ask you to judge a stranger in half a second, then wonder why the conversation dies. We start from the things that actually decide whether two lives fit together.
Answer questions that actually matter
Twelve evidence-informed dimensions — from family plans and faith to money, conflict style and everyday rhythm. No trick questions, no personality gimmicks. Roughly twenty minutes, and you can change any answer later.
Set your own weights and dealbreakers
You decide what's non-negotiable and what you're flexible on. A dealbreaker is respected absolutely — we will never show you someone who fails one, no matter how well they score elsewhere.
Choose what you verify
Identity, background, health status, a one-minute hello video. Each is optional and entirely yours to control. Verified items appear as dated badges — never as raw reports handed to strangers.
See compatibility you can understand
Every match shows a plain-language breakdown: where you align, where you differ, and what's genuinely worth a conversation. No secret desirability ranking. No black box.
Talk like adults
Start with what the two of you actually disagree about, not with "hey." Matches come with conversation starters drawn from your real differences — the interesting ones.
What we actually ask about.
Each dimension carries its own importance weight. You decide which ones are non-negotiable and which you're relaxed about — and that changes your results, not some hidden ranking of who deserves to be seen.
Life direction
Where you're genuinely headed over the next five years — and how firmly.
Family vision
Children, parenting philosophy, and the role extended family plays.
Values & meaning
Faith, ethics, and the beliefs that quietly govern your decisions.
Everyday rhythm
Sleep, tidiness, social energy, and how you actually spend a Tuesday.
Money mindset
Spending, saving, ambition, risk, and who handles what.
Conflict & repair
How you argue, how fast you cool down, and how you make up.
Emotional availability
How openly you express needs, and how you handle someone else's.
Affection & intimacy
Physical connection, affection styles, and expectations around it.
Health & wellbeing
Activity, food, alcohol, and how you look after yourself.
Roots & mobility
Where you'll live, whether you'd relocate, and how tied you are to home.
Together & apart
How much shared time you need — and how much space.
Growth & humour
Curiosity, learning, adventure, and what actually makes you laugh.
How a score is actually built.
We think you deserve to know the arithmetic. There isn't much to it, and that's deliberate.
Each dimension is scored on its own
We compare your answer to theirs and produce a per-dimension alignment figure. Nothing is blended together yet.
Your weights decide what counts
A dimension you marked “a lot” pulls far harder on the total than one you marked “barely.” Two people can see different scores for the same pairing, because they want different things. That's correct, not a bug.
Dealbreakers are absolute
A failed dealbreaker isn't a penalty — it's a stop. No amount of alignment elsewhere will surface someone who fails one of yours.
You see the reasoning, always
Every match arrives with the breakdown attached: strongest alignments, real differences, and the two or three things genuinely worth talking about first.