Verification that means something.
Members decide what to verify. Results appear as dated badges — not raw reports, not medical records, and never a misleading “safe person” promise.
You are who you say you are
Age and identity confirmation through an independent provider. We check the document, then discard it — we keep the badge and the date, not your driver's licence.
Consent-based record screening
A criminal-record review you opt into, with clear dispute and recheck procedures. Members see a dated badge, never the underlying report — and never a misleading "safe person" promise.
Private, optional, expiring
Optional lab verification with an expiry date, disclosed only to the people you choose, when you choose. Nobody sees a result you haven't deliberately shared.
A voice, not just a grid of photos
A short moderated video lets people show warmth, humour and intention — the things a still photograph has never once managed to convey.
We will not tell you someone is safe.
Plenty of platforms imply that a verification badge means a person is trustworthy. That implication gets people hurt, so we won't make it. Here is precisely what our badges do and don't tell you.
- A badge is a dated fact, not a character reference. “Identity verified, 12 March” means a document was confirmed on that date. It says nothing about how someone will treat you.
- Record checks have real gaps. They vary by jurisdiction, they miss anything unreported, and they miss everything that never reached a court. A clear check is not evidence of a clear history.
- Checks go stale. Every badge carries its date and, where it matters, an expiry. A check from two years ago is a fact about two years ago.
- You can dispute anything. Every consent-based check comes with a documented dispute and recheck procedure, because these reports do get things wrong about real people.
The advice that actually works.
Meet somewhere public, the first few times
Not just the first date. Somewhere with staff, other people and a door you can walk out of.
Tell someone where you'll be
Name, where you're going, when you expect to be home. Share your live location if that's easy for you.
Arrange your own transport
Both ways. Being able to leave the moment you want to is worth more than any badge on a profile.
Trust the feeling, not the profile
If something is off, leave. You never owe anyone an explanation, a second chance, or a polite goodbye.
Keep money entirely out of it
Nobody you have not met needs your money, your bank details or a favour involving crypto. Nobody. Ever.
Report it — we'd rather know
Reports are read by people, not a queue. Telling us costs you nothing and may spare the next person.
Your private life is not our advertising inventory.
- Sexual, health, religious and political answers are never sold and never used for ad targeting. Not anonymised, not aggregated, not "shared with partners." Never.
- Advertisers can sponsor broad, obvious contexts — dining, fitness, travel, local events. That's the whole extent of it.
- Every match score comes with a plain-language "why." There is no secret desirability ranking deciding who gets seen.
- You can export everything we hold on you, or delete all of it, at any time, without emailing anyone to ask permission.